Red Carpet Ready Boundaries

The following is an excerpt from a letter I wrote to my beloved. In it, I highlight an important, new boundary of my self-understanding and lay the groundwork to navigate practicalities while simultaneously growing in our relationship.

My darling,

I am coming to you in this space because I want to be clear with myself and with you, in the frequency and intention of the highest love and evolution for both of us. I want to establish strong boundaries and create pathways for our love to flow while also honoring every step through which my path takes me.

I have been aching to set a boundary with myself for a while now, one I was feeling these last days especially, and now I have. This is it: I am always the magic manifestor, the confident and clear co-creator of my life, the loving light being who plays easily and joyfully across the dimensions, and I hold real (sometimes physical), clear, embodied, and unconditional space for that.

What's different today is that, because it is so clear to me who I am, what I can do, what I have already done, my responsibility to carry this out into the world is also clear.

Perhaps the image itself isn’t new, but what’s different today is that, because it is so clear to me who I am, what I can do, what I have already done, my responsibility to carry this out into the world, and the actual, practical pathway for owning it, is also clear. That is, my responsibility to honor my current highest self is (tangibly, practically) so clear that it makes acting as, through, with, and for it inevitably and luxuriously effortless.

It makes it clear that following the guidance of the one who lives in the spacious wealth and creativity of Program B (for example, as it is the main reflection of where I want to go right now, but is not itself “who I am or what I rely upon”), not matter how “crazy” or “risky” or bold the move, is the path of my greatest joy, my greatest expression, my greatest creation, my greatest expansion, my greatest strength, and, of course, my greatest love.

Too too long, I have denied her, not simply by way of material items, but in the way that I did (or, largely, did not) take her seriously, pay attention to her, or give her the space, time, and energy that she ever asked for.

She is effective, she is strong, she is precise, she is attentive, she is loving, she is cooperative, and she is creative. She follows her own guidance to bless herself and the world.

She is not greedy, she is not excessive, she is not dramatic, she is not a burden or a drain, and she most certainly is not unworthy.

She is effective, she is strong, she is precise, she is attentive, she is loving, she is cooperative, collaborative, and creative. She shines bright and uninhibited in her light, and she follows her own guidance to bless herself and the world.

She is here, she’s always been here, and she has only ever asked me to love her and let her live.

So this is why I must, now, because for the last few months, I’ve done my work to release more and more and more of the reasons why not to. I still have plenty of fear, but… I have no more reasons, and that is clear. From where I’m standing now, the obvious - the only - move to make now is forward in this exact rocket ship evolution.

She is here, she's always been here, and she has only ever asked me to love her and let her live.

I believe that you understand me very deeply, and I know that you support me in my moves. I remain deeply grateful for that, for your love and witnessing, and adore you for it. And yet, I believe you may still wonder why Program B. Why this very particular thing.

What I hope I convey to you from my words above is the context in which the next move needs to be precisely this big. Why Program B? Precisely because it lives outside of my current comfort zone, precisely because you’re inevitably involved due to our current situation, precisely because it’s the exact right amount of stretch and expansion for this stage of my life. I don’t know the specifics of “why,” only that it is clear to me.

Without drama. It is simple and clear.

A parting thought: as we continue to live (and play) bigger and bigger, it is inevitable that we will also need to invest bigger and bigger in ourselves as part of our authentic and nourished path. I’ve spent the last year especially intensively preparing myself to do just that.

What do you say? Want to join me for the ride? I can’t promise risk-free, but I can promise a rocket ship :)

I love you,

Jillian Joy